Comments on: Delighting in Fatness

By: Kathryn

Kathryn — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 14:21:51 +0000

Andrea, boots ahoy!

Brooke, nothing in heaven or earth could stop you from being beautiful.

By: brooke

brooke — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 19:00:03 +0000

oh my gosh, this is so me & so much of what i’ve been thinking about lately. why is my “before i ever had kids” body the ideal? it stands to reason that bodies should and will be different after childbirth and with age. and i hate that i can logically say that but then cannot trust it’s really ok.

AND, when i really really should be delighting in fatness for a very lovable & blessed reason, i’m still insecure.

blasted body issues. i hate them. but you inspire me kathy!

By: Andrea R.

Andrea R. — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 02:12:14 +0000

Kathy,
I agree with you — we’ve been totally conditioned to only value our 20-year-old selves. I have a hangup with wanting to weigh what I did in high school. I need to let it go…

Show off those gams with your hot boots! Boots are the answer, baby!

By: Kathryn

Kathryn — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 23:32:05 +0000

Deborah, I have some awesome black boots that so far I’ve only dared to wear under pants or with long skirts. I think it’s time for a knee-length skirt!

By: Kathryn

Kathryn — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 23:30:16 +0000

Because our 20-year-old bodies represent everything we’ve been conditioned to believe as valuable, even though we know better.

Seriously: beauty and youth combined is the biggest source of obvious power available to women. Sure, the rewards are hollow, but they’re undeniable.

Marintha, use those gift certificates! I totally want to buy new clothes, but I already have plenty that fit. (Well, that’s not entirely true–I need to buy the next size up in jeans. Tomorrow. And I’ll keep the current set, but I’m purging the two-sizes-too-small set.)

I know it’s not easy. This transition has taken me years. Years! And years and years! It all came together for me when I finally realized that in order to look the way I think I should look, I would have to take extreme measures: surgery, rigid eating habits, excessive exercise . . . basically, making my body shape the central focus of my life in terms of time and money and thought.

I’m committed to physical health, but I’m no longer beholden to skinny shirts. It feels good.

Awesome comments, my friends.

By: marintha

marintha — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 22:44:35 +0000

Does this mean I should use all those gift certificates to clothing stores I get for Christmas instead of waiting years on end to shed 20 pounds–the same goal year after year? and pass those skinny skirts on? Why is it so hard for me to let go of my 20 year old body?

By: Annie

Annie — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 22:29:17 +0000

Oh, yes, I’m delighting in it right along with you. I can relate to this. For me (of the pear-shaped variety) it’s pants, not shirts. I have a collection that spans the spectrum of 4 sizes with only about two pairs that I really, truly feel good wearing. The rest of them tsk-tsk me every time I open the closet.

Who needs ‘em? Time to shed the clothes (if not the weight).

By: Deborah

Deborah — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 21:56:06 +0000

I bought tall black boots. For the first time. I don’t need skinny jeans — I got hot boots.

By: madhousewife

madhousewife — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 20:42:23 +0000

Yes, buy new clothes! Out with the skinny, in with the fat!

I gained a bit more weight with my last baby than I did with my first three, and I lost the weight much…more…slowly…so that at some point I realized that I couldn’t just keep wearing my maternity clothes until I fit back into my regular clothes, so I bought myself a new wardrobe. Then I had to stop wearing those clothes because I got too small for them. Now I’m afraid to try them on for fear that they will fit again.

But you should definitely buy some new clothes. Delight in fatness, indeed.

By: Joanne

Joanne — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 20:21:39 +0000

Kathy, I think you look great! Granted, I haven’t seen you for 8 years, but I’ve seen pics and you look great! Practically the same as in high school.

It sucks to have to get rid of your skinny clothes (or in my case, my not-as-fat clothes). But I say it’s an opportunity to buy yourself some new threads!